Friday, October 27, 2017

Go Ahead


You should go ahead with her.
Sure, you'll have to explain your quirks and she could be a handful, but at least she will make you happy(er).
She will make you laugh every few minutes.
She will inspire you to learn more about the world around you.
And she won't hurt you like I could.
I, on the other hand, have put you on a pedestal, knowing that you could be even better.
I have my bad days that will eventually darken your skies.
I have my doubts and my fears and my insecurities. 
All of which, I fear, would eventually eat you whole. 
If they knew that you meant as much as you have meant to me, I'm afraid, they would track you down and circle your legs before blanketing you in darkness, the darkness from which I run from every day, the darkness that has become my loyal companion. 
So, go, go away with her. 


And you won't be able to fly as freely as you've always dreamt.

I've helped you take off and now she will help you soar.

Monday, August 7, 2017

From the Beaches



There will be many mornings like this.
Him asleep enveloped in the arms of your little angels. 
You, awake, lonely, still able to pack and prep and think.
You'll make a list in your head, allowing him to sleep that much longer.
You'll put in some cash inside your phone cover and grab the keys before pursuing the quiet that you crave, yet fear.

You'll walk out wondering if he noticed, hoping that he would wake up and run after you, while at the same time you feel worried that he'd lose the sleep that he so needs. 
He's been the hero under the sun, while you were too weak to lift your head from the wastebasket. 
He stayed up with the kids while they rambled on and on about their day. 
He laughed with them while you wished you had the energy to be there, to be included.
He kept you company and yet, yet he kept silent. 
Kept to himself.

Is it you? Now, you're staring at the sky. 

The sun rises slowly.
Who would've thought that the sun would rise before your eyes, allowing you to bask in the cliched beauty of sunrise, a beauty that you've overlooked for most of your life.
You have a sudden narcissistic appreciation.
Finally someone is happy to see you.
The silence blankets you. 
Reminding you that it is always there for you. 


Loneliness watches from afar, it's eyes weeping with, well... loneliness. 

You call it over and take it's hand before hugging it tight, much like you wish he would do.
You understand Loneliness and somehow it understands you.
Looking deep into L's eyes, you could see the little girl you used to be, the girl who contently played by herself, oblivious of what loneliness meant. 
Sometimes you wish you could remain in that bubble.

You wish you hadn't known what friendship, companionship and laugher with him meant.

And you come back to the same question: how would his life play out had you not stumbled in? 
Would it be better?
You have a sense that it would be.
Your little angels flash on your phone.
Half the time you wish you hadn't changed your wallpaper, but in moments like this you're glad that you did.
They remind you that at least you've created something good, something that would wake you up on weekend mornings if you allow them to. 
And yet, as you're sitting alone you wonder if you're doing more good than bad. 
If perhaps, they'd be better off without you.
You wish you would not be at this crossroads, faced with the thought of leaving them or staying.

What would make you stay? 
The assurance that they would be better if you're around, that he won't leave and that you'd be allowed to grow old with him, sincerely.
That would make you stay. Would definitely make you stay. Make you stay longer at least. 

Monday, February 27, 2017

Honestly



His messages appear on my phone, reminding me that yes, someone out there still cares. 
Yet, I can't bring myself to pick up the phone. 
And when I manage to do it, I ignore the box where his words are kept and instead, focus on other chat rooms. 

I do this despite constantly wanting to reach out. 
I do this despite missing him badly. 
I do this despite wanting to hear how his day went. 

I do this because I can't be honest with him. 
Honesty is the best policy, I know. 
But is it really the best approach if it would lead you to make one-sided decisions? 

Honesty is the best policy if we're both ready to be brutal. 
And I'm not. 
I'm much too comfortable sitting in the dark seeing your message illuminate this existence of mine. 

Thursday, January 19, 2017

Complicated Critters

It was the first day of college. Lots of new faces passed me by. Out of nowhere, I began introducing myself. Perhaps, I was mimicking those around me. Perhaps, I was suppressing my fear of being stranded in this school. Or perhaps, I was compelled to do so for fear of missing out.



Sure, I felt a jolt of uncertainty, but somehow making the first attempt, which of course proved to be easy, diluted all the fear away. It was the first day of college and I was rather excited to make new friends.

The last time I made friends was in kindergarten. 14 years before the first day of college, I was headed to my first day of kindergarten. I didn't know anyone and if I remember correctly, I had no intention of knowing anyone. As an only child, I did not see the joy of speaking with people my own age, when I could converse about current events with adults.

Friendship, especially making new friends, does not come naturally to me. And without much interest, I never truly learned the necessary social skills to make friends effectively.

But then, suddenly, five years after the first day of college, I found myself making friends quickly and easily. Ironically, when I was most myself (read: weird) I was able to attract new friends. Sure, one of them looks like an adorable critter and the other proves to be as complicated as me, but that only compels me to anticipate hanging out with them even more.

For a very, very long time I found myself looking for these newfound friends. I can't wait to talk to them, make them laugh, and sing-a-long with them in the car. For once, I wanted to see my friends all the time.

In retrospect, most days making friends happens as easily as it did on the first day of college. Oddly enough, much like the first day of college, we are still alone on most days of our lives. All I had to learn was to say "Hi!"